Woman, 49 Becoming A Mum Following Multiple ᴍɪsᴄᴀʀʀɪᴀɢᴇs
Kris Monsour shared her decade-long journey to motherhood on TikTok. After multiple ᴍɪsᴄᴀʀʀɪᴀɢᴇs, 48-year-old executive insurance director Kris had accepted that she might never have kids… then a single text changed her life. A distant relative reached out asking if she and her partner Clay, 47, wanted to ᴀᴅᴏᴘᴛ as a kin ship. They said yes. After a long, ɢʀᴜᴇʟʟɪɴɢ ʟᴇɢᴀʟ ᴘʀᴏᴄᴇss that cost £15k, they were granted official custody of Ainsley in March 2020.
While Kris had made peace with the fact she may never become a mother, she never really gave up hope. For more than seven years, she still desired motherhood.
‘During my first marriage, I really wanted children, but I sᴜFFᴇʀᴇᴅ a miscarriage at 38, My ex-partner and I discussed IVF and other routes, but never went ahead with the process as our marriage ended up Fᴀʟʟɪɴɢ apart due to it being ǫᴜɪᴛᴇ ᴛᴏxɪᴄ.
When she met her current husband, Clay she got pregnant very quickly, but lost the baby at the three-month mark. A doctor ended up basically telling her that she should just stop trying and that she was never going to be a mother.
‘It was a huge ɢᴜᴛ ᴘᴜɴᴄʜ, but I was determined to focus on my job.’she said
Then one afternoon in 2019, the miracle came to us. that we could become parent. They officially ᴀᴅᴏᴘᴛed Ainsley in March 2020. They were there every step of the way during the pregnancy and the birth. They were there for the ultrasound, and at the hospital when she was born, Kris even got to ᴄᴜᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏʀᴅ.
The overall ᴀᴅᴏᴘᴛion process cost about £15,300 all together. Ainsley has been welcomed ‘with open arms’ by Kris’ extended family. ‘We love the fact she’s got so much love around her,’ Kris said.
Kris plans to tell Ainsley that she is ᴀᴅᴏᴘᴛed as soon as it feels right. For now, she is ignoring the social media trolls and continuing to make videos about motherhood for TikTok.
While many people have been supportive, others have attacked her for becoming a first-time mother nearly in her 50s.
You are going to die before she graduates. Selfish’, one person wrote. ‘Very selfish, that child is going struggle,’ said another.
‘I shared my story via TikTok and had a lot of trolls come out of nowhere saying that I wasn’t suitable to be a mum, that I was too old, that I was being selfish. I’ve never seen it that way and know that a long life is never guaranteed no matter how young or old you are. I do have some worries that I won’t see some of Ainsley’s achievements, but we’re taking everything one day at a time, and trying to live and thrive within every moment.’ Kris said.
This hasn’t stopped Kris from sharing updates from her family, as she said she ‘felt whole’ after becoming a mom. Kris has called out the commenters for their ageist remarks. Reassuringly, most of the top comments on her original video – which now has over a million views – are positive.
